- 17 lat i 23. Rozmiar 34 oraz 38/40. Nie jest to zdjęcie przed i po, ale wtedy i teraz - pisze Milly.
17 to 23 Size 6 to size 10/12 Not a before and after just a then and now. ️ I didn't just gain weight. I gained a life, my son, my fiancé, happiness, mental clarity, freedom and energy. I gained a relationship with my body that I never thought I would- I respect it. ️ I left my disorder at rock bottom and climbed my way up. I hit every obstacle and I'm still hitting them now but without the whole weight of my ED dragging me down I have the strength to keep going. ️ I want every single one of you embarking on recovery to know that you're not alone, the sun will shine and you CAN and WILL leave the grasp of your eating disorder. ️ You don't need to look a certain way for your pain to be valid, you don't need to be under or over weight for your struggles to be real and worthy of help. Reach out to those around you, you're worthy of love and support. You don't need to live like this and you don't have to go through it alone. You've got this warrior. You are loved, worthy and powerful beyond measure
- Nie tylko nabrałam wagi, ale zyskałam życie, mojego syna, narzeczonego, szczęście, jasność umysłu, wolność i energię. Otrzymałam taki związek ze swoim ciałem, który nigdy nie wydawał mi się możliwy. Bardzo go szanuję i pielęgnuję - dodaje dziewczyna.
- Zostawiłam swoje zaburzenia na dnie i wspięłam się do góry. Przebrnęłam przez każdą przeszkodę. Chcę, żeby każdy z was wiedział, że nie jest sam! - mówi Milly.
I've started to see beauty in things I was taught not to. ️ I see beauty in a genuine smile. I see beauty in wrinkles and laugh marks. I see beauty in raw unedited images. I see beauty in tummy rolls and back rolls. I see beauty in scars and stretch marks. I see beauty in blemishes and blotchy skin. I see beauty in fat, slim, able bodied, disabled, dark skin, transgender. I see beauty in not so perky boobs, scarred boobs, stretch marked boobs. I see beauty in cellulite, hair, smooth skin, bumpy skin. I see beauty in eyes, I see beauty in words, beauty in language and beauty in voices. ️ I realise how long I've been blinded to the beauty in the world, the beauty of myself. We've been taught to see certain things as undesirable- we weren't born that way so I fully believe we can learn to think otherwise and see the true beauty in the world once again. Ignorance, health as propaganda, being a media driven society and stupid beauty ideals/standards have taken away our ability to see beauty in ourselves and others- it doesn't have to be that way- it really doesn't. ️ Every woman marching today has filled me with pride and humbled me to my core. Not a single one of them looks the same, not a single one of them is unworthy of love, they are all unique; beautifully different and perfectly 'flawed'. I stand with women all over the world- we are valid, worthy and powerful beyond measure. ️
- Nie musisz wyglądać w określony sposób, żeby być wartościowym człowiekiem. Nie musisz mieć niedowagi lub nadwagi, żeby widoczne było Twoje wewnętrzne cierpienie. Wyciągnij rękę do tych, dookoła ciebie, ponieważ jesteś wart miłości i wsparcia - dodaje.
Milly zaczęła widzieć piękno w rzeczach, których wcześniej nienawidziła.
Just a same girl, same day, different pose reminder that our bodies look different in different angles and that it's perfectly ok, normal and natural. You don't need to look like anybody else but YOU I get asked a lot recently how to start a Bopo insta page as they want confidence. I often come up with nothing because I'm not entirely sure I understand. Are they asking me how to get started on a journey to self love or just how to start an insta page to get justification that their body is worthy in hope it will bring them self love? Before I put my photos and words out onto Instagram I started my journey to self love with myself; I mean it's still a very personal journey but I want to share it now and help others too. I took photos and wrote down love notes to my body without showing them to a soul- it was just for my soul and my mind. Starting an insta page could help you on your journey of course but your motives are what's important- know what they are before starting is my advice. Maybe do it off social media first and get a feel for your journey and what works/doesn't work for you and do it for YOU. Do it for your soul. Your follower count doesn't matter or make you more or less worthy. 10,000 people telling you your pretty wont bring about self love either. It's so much more than that and it starts deep inside yourself not with your aesthetics. Bopo isn't a 'trend'. It's not about how many you can impress, you need to be impressing yourself. Make yourself proud.
Same girl, same body, same place, same time. STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO POSED PHOTOGRAPHS! STOP COMPARING YOURSELF AT ALL! YOU ARE YOU! Neither pose makes me a better person, neither pose defines my worth. When we can change our bodies this much in a photograph we can see even more so how basing our worth on the way we look or how others look is just insane, fickle and just not ok! Being body positive doesn't mean loving your body in a certain pose or when you've lost a few pounds; it means loving every angle, movement and squish right this very moment!! Wether you lose weight, gain weight, gain muscle, gain fat-ITS OK! Don't fear change, our bodies will never stay the same and fighting against it won't help, let your body move through life as it wishes, let it take up as much space as it wants and let it LIVE! Forgetting what we've been told all our lives is hard but 'ideals' come and go and beauty standards change so keeping up with them would be impossible, exhausting and a waste of a life -the one constant is your body, your wonderful vessel that guides you through, show it some care, some love and some respect. You deserve this.